Tag Archives: Love

The Shrink’s Links: The Road to Reconciliation

Beginning this Friday, I will be posting chapters of a new weekly series, The Road to Reconciliation. This is a writing project I’ve been working on that spells out the process couples take to put old injuries and disappointments behind them and move on to a more functional, satisfying relationship. On this website, I willContinue reading “The Shrink’s Links: The Road to Reconciliation”

The Baby in the Room

You know what it’s like when there’s a baby in the room. At best, the baby is delightful and everyone is cooing and coddling the cute little tyke. At worse, the baby’s screams prevent anyone else from saying a word or even thinking a complete thought. If the baby is upset, then everything must stopContinue reading “The Baby in the Room”

The Shrink’s Links: Hugging till Relaxed, the Video

Bringing you the best of mental health every week. Hugging till relaxed is elegant and simple. The basics require four sentences: stand on your own two feet. Put your arms around your partner. Focus on yourself. Quiet yourself down – way down. – David Schnarch Watch the video and learn: Articles I have written hundredsContinue reading “The Shrink’s Links: Hugging till Relaxed, the Video”

Some Things You May Not Know About Substance Abuse, Part 7: In the beginning of recovery, it doesn’t matter if you are self motivated. It just matters that you have motivation

In the beginning of recovery, it doesn’t matter if you are self motivated. It just matters that you have motivation Most people believe that internal or self motivation is the best kind of motivation and that people who are motivated for recovery to please others, whether they be the court, a spouse, a boss, orContinue reading “Some Things You May Not Know About Substance Abuse, Part 7: In the beginning of recovery, it doesn’t matter if you are self motivated. It just matters that you have motivation”

The Broken Window Theory of Personal Relationships

Go to any down-in-the-heels, crime-ridden, poverty-stricken inner city and you are certain to find one thing. Lots and lots of broken windows. Most of these broken windows will be in abandoned buildings, where no one appears to care and no one seems to be affected. Windows don’t break on their own, someone picked up aContinue reading “The Broken Window Theory of Personal Relationships”

When Madness Takes Cover

So, you’ve stopped drinking, or drugging, or gambling, or sleeping around. Your depression seems to have lifted. You haven’t been violent. Your anxiety no longer makes all the decisions. You’re up in the morning and dressed when you need to be. The madness seems to have gone away. Has it, really? Madness takes cover sometimesContinue reading “When Madness Takes Cover”

What if relationships were like Calvinball?

If the traditional forms of relationship are not working for you, and you need a role model; you don’t need to go far to find one. You only need to read some old funny pages. There you will find a perfect trusting relationship illustrated in Calvin and Hobbes. Calvin and Hobbes is a wonderful comicContinue reading “What if relationships were like Calvinball?”

A New Lease on your Relationship: Money

No relationship can go on for long before the couple has to work out what to do about money. Even at the dating stage there’s that awkward moment when you first fight over the check at the restaurant. Couples didn’t use to fight over the check, the man always paid; but now the woman isContinue reading “A New Lease on your Relationship: Money”