Grudge

Suppose you’re angry on Tuesday because someone stole from you on Monday. On Wednesday that person returned what he stole, compensated you for the inconvenience, apologized, and credibly promised never to do it again. If you’re still angry on Thursday, you are said to be holding a grudge. Plenty of people say grudges should beContinue reading “Grudge”

What Anger Really Says

I once facilitated a therapy group for perpetrators of domestic violence. The group was made up of men who had gotten in trouble with the law and were ordered by the court to attend. These men were not happy to be there. It was our unenviable duty to teach them that violence is not necessary.Continue reading “What Anger Really Says”

When Madness Takes Cover

So, you’ve stopped drinking, or drugging, or gambling, or sleeping around. Your depression seems to have lifted. You haven’t been violent. Your anxiety no longer makes all the decisions. You’re up in the morning and dressed when you need to be. The madness seems to have gone away. Has it, really? Madness takes cover sometimesContinue reading “When Madness Takes Cover”

What is Madness?

Someone asked why the name of this blog is Madness 101. Shouldn’t I call it Mental Illness 101? Isn’t mental illness the proper, politically correct term? It is, but it’s not really mental illness that I’m writing about. I’m writing about the related subject of madness. Illness is something that happens to you beyond yourContinue reading “What is Madness?”

The Shrink’s Links: Cure Together

Bringing you the best of mental health and relationship articles on the internet. Today’s link from the shrink is: Cure Together Here’s an interesting idea. Get a bunch of people together that have the same condition and have them report on what actually works to treat it. Are you depressed? Exercise, adequate sleep, and talkContinue reading “The Shrink’s Links: Cure Together”

The Shrink’s Links: Still I Rise

Bringing you the best of mental health and relationship articles on the internet. Today’s link from the shrink is: Still I Rise Feeling oppressed? Recite this poem to yourself and you’ll feel ready to take it on, anyway. Good for all types of oppression. Click here to go to the link Related articles The Shrink’sContinue reading “The Shrink’s Links: Still I Rise”

The Shrink’s Links: Difficult Conversations

Bringing you the best of mental health and relationship articles on the internet. Today’s link from the shrink is: Difficult Conversations We all have to have them. Many avoid them. Many screw them up by being too aggressive. There’s a book that tells you how to have a productive difficult conversation. This link summarizes theContinue reading “The Shrink’s Links: Difficult Conversations”

The Shrink’s Links: Body Language

Bringing you the best of mental health and relationship articles on the internet. Today’s link from the shrink is: Your body language shapes who you are Here’s something you may not have known. Your own body language not only communicates to others, it’s also how you communicate to yourself. Click here to go to theContinue reading “The Shrink’s Links: Body Language”

The Shrink’s Links: Mind Hacks

Bringing you the best of mental health and relationship articles on the internet. Today’s link from the shrink is: 6 Mind Hacks That Keep Stress In Check (Really!) Click here to go to the link Related articles The Shrink’s Links: The Art of Manliness The Shrink’s Links: Joy Whack-a-Mole

The What Anger Says Series: Why Anger Does Not Need to be Managed

I get calls all the time from people wanting help with anger management. I offer to meet with them. I help them the best I can. Let me tell you a secret: I don’t believe it’s anger that needs to be managed. People call it anger management because that’s the name for it, but whatContinue reading “The What Anger Says Series: Why Anger Does Not Need to be Managed”