Do You Really Have a Choice with Your Feelings?

If you say you got pisssed off, gripped by fear, sadness overcame you, lost hope, filled with gratitude, or overwhelmed by joy; the passive voice you use about your feelings reveals a misconception of how they work. Continue reading →


Suppose you’re angry on Tuesday because someone stole from you on Monday. On Wednesday that person returned what he stole, compensated you for the inconvenience, apologized, and credibly promised never to do it again. If you’re still angry on Thursday, you are said to be holding a grudge. Plenty of people say grudges should beContinue reading “Grudge”

If You Can’t Find Help

Let’s face it, it is a whole lot easier to acquire a Problem than it is to get help in eradicating it. In many localities, there are drug dealers at every corner, but to get your loved one to a clinic, takes two buses. Intake coordinators will make him wait in a room with oldContinue reading “If You Can’t Find Help”

The Shrink’s Links: The Principle of Tenacity

Bringing you the best of mental health every week. In this year’s election, you may have noticed people clinging to unreasonable political beliefs. When they post their poorly considered opinions on Facebook, you try to argue against them, but you can’t convince them of anything. Why is that? Why can’t they change? How can youContinue reading “The Shrink’s Links: The Principle of Tenacity”

The Shrink’s Links: Hugging till Relaxed, the Video

Bringing you the best of mental health every week. Hugging till relaxed is elegant and simple. The basics require four sentences: stand on your own two feet. Put your arms around your partner. Focus on yourself. Quiet yourself down – way down. – David Schnarch Watch the video and learn:

What is Madness?

Someone asked why the name of this blog is Madness 101. Shouldn’t I call it Mental Illness 101? Isn’t mental illness the proper, politically correct term? It is, but it’s not really mental illness that I’m writing about. I’m writing about the related subject of madness. Illness is something that happens to you beyond yourContinue reading “What is Madness?”

The Shrink’s Links: Cure Together

Bringing you the best of mental health and relationship articles on the internet. Today’s link from the shrink is: Cure Together Here’s an interesting idea. Get a bunch of people together that have the same condition and have them report on what actually works to treat it. Are you depressed? Exercise, adequate sleep, and talkContinue reading “The Shrink’s Links: Cure Together”

The What Anger Says Series: Why Anger Does Not Need to be Managed

I get calls all the time from people wanting help with anger management. I offer to meet with them. I help them the best I can. Let me tell you a secret: I don’t believe it’s anger that needs to be managed. People call it anger management because that’s the name for it, but whatContinue reading “The What Anger Says Series: Why Anger Does Not Need to be Managed”

Story Blindness

Sometimes a story will cause us to go blind. Let me tell you how it happened to me. Years ago, I was traveling by Greyhound bus, scheduled to transfer at the Port Authority Bus Terminal in New York. This was in the early Eighties when New York was in the midst of a cocaine epidemicContinue reading “Story Blindness”