The Methods I Use in Counseling

The Reflective Eclectic

I’ve done this so long, I’ve developed my own personal approach to psychotherapy I call Reflective Eclectic, drawing on a number of techniques, including Narrative , Cognitive Behavioral, Internal Family Systems, Motivational Enhancement, Solution Focused, Neuro-Linguistic, Existential, and Person Centered Therapy, among others, selecting from each as it seems appropriate.

I’ve written a series of essays on the art (or science) of counseling (or psychotherapy). These are the links, so you may read as many as you’d like.

Why I Don’t Specialize in Anything

The After Visit Summary

How to Help a Person Grow (Person-Centered Therapy)

Why Ask Why? (Insight Oriented Therapy)

How Stories Can Harm: But They Can heal the Harm, Also (Narrative Therapy)

Wrangling the Parts of Your Mind (Internal Family Systems)

Need a Map For Your Brain? (Neuro-Linguistic Programming)

The Mind’s Instruction Manual (CBT)

Can Therapy and Spirituality Co-Exist?

I and Thou (Existential)

How Machiavellian is Your Therapist? (Reality Therapy)

Something You Can Do When There’s Nothing You Can Do (Mindfulness)

How to Look at Everything Differently (Gestalt Therapy)

Igniting Change (Motivational Enhancement Therapy)

Solution Focused Brief Therapy

What Pigeons Can Teach You About Expectations (Behavioral Therapy)

Nine Kinds of Madness and the Hole in the Middle of It All (Enneagram)

See, Do, Teach (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy)

Helping Brains Talk to One Another (Differentiation Based Psychotherapy)

How I Made Peace With My Inner Critic (Internal Family Systems)

What is a Christian Counselor?

What is the Meaning of Life? (Existential)

Don’t be Mindless about Mindfulness (Mindfulness)

You are Sisyphus and you must come to peace with it, or not (Existential)

Evidence-Based Therapy

Mental Illness is One Thing, Madness is Another

Telehealth Psychotherapy

The Perils of Understanding

Waiting Room Therapy

Job Satisfaction When the System is Rigged

How to Let Go

How Adversity Brings Out Your Potential

The Face of the Other

Fifty Minutes Set Apart

Cultivating Change

Plotting the Revolution from a Therapist’s Office

Taming the Pumpkin

Don’t Force It

Strange Ideas About the Strange Situation

Eleanor Oliphant Might Be Completely Fine

How to Keep the Faith When You Don’t Think You Have Any

Should You Choose a Therapist By Their Credentials?

Empathy and What it’s Like to Be a Bat

Looking for My Father in Emerson’s Essays

Is Your Doctor Going the Way of the Family Farm?

You Are Not a Noun

Living with Stress



What If the Past Doesn’t Exist?

Will Your Therapist Even Notice If You Drink the Kool Aid?

The Table

How to Talk to a Kid

The Thought Factory

How I Found My Calling and How Moses Found His

How Normal is Abnormal?

The Cost of the Placebo Effect

Light Beams