Bringing you the best of mental health every week. If you read my last post, entitled Avoid Playing the Victim, you would have come across this example. I stole it. The fourth sign [of playing the victim] is hard to explain. Imagine going to a restaurant and getting a waiter who is so attentive, soContinue reading “The Shrink’s Links: Being and Nothingness”
Monthly Archives: June 2016
The Road to Reconciliation: Avoid Playing the Victim
So far, I’ve been urging you to bear right on the road to reconciliation. There’s a good reason for this. To the left are all the hazards that come from not taking your injuries seriously enough: cheap pardon and being out of touch with feelings and uncommitted to values. Now I want you to slightlyContinue reading “The Road to Reconciliation: Avoid Playing the Victim”
The Shrink’s Links: Book Review: Boredom
Bringing you the best of mental health every week. People go crazy because they’re bored. Workers hate their jobs because they are bored. Partners cheat on their spouses because they are bored. The leading reason why addicts tell me they relapse is they are bored. Also, writers write, painters paint, players play, and inventors inventContinue reading “The Shrink’s Links: Book Review: Boredom”
The Road to Reconciliation: See the Context
The world may have been created out of nothing, out of a nameless void, they say; but since then, anything that has happened has arisen out of something else. We call this context. If you want to come to some peace over something that has happened to you, then see the context from which itContinue reading “The Road to Reconciliation: See the Context”
The Shrink’s Links: The Defensive Functioning Scale
Bringing you the best of mental health every week. It’s not a question of whether or not you use psychological defenses. Everybody does. It’s really a question of what they are. Some, you see, are better than others. The first defenses we develop are the primitive ones, cheap and dirty, the barrel bombs of psychologicalContinue reading “The Shrink’s Links: The Defensive Functioning Scale”
The Road to Reconciliation: How to Re-Traumatize Yourself
First, a bad thing happens. Rape, murder, combat, abuse. You don’t have a lot of control over it. That’s the point. Something happens way, way out of your control. You barely make it. Now you’re left with the memories. That’s the trauma. Second, the memories come up. You don’t have a lot of control overContinue reading “The Road to Reconciliation: How to Re-Traumatize Yourself”
The Shrink’s Links: Constructive Conflict
Bringing you the best of mental health every week. My book, Constructive Conflict, has just been published in print and in Kindle. Conflict in relationships is inevitable. If you haven’t had a conflict yet, you haven’t been paying attention. Communication increases conflict. If you haven’t had a conflict yet, you haven’t really been talking. ConflictContinue reading “The Shrink’s Links: Constructive Conflict”
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