Monthly Archives: January 2015

Part 66: Relationships are Eternal

Once you are in a relationship with someone, you will always be in a relationship with that person. It’s like the Hotel California, you can never leave. I don’t care if you never speak to her again, if you move to the other side of the world, put up a dartboard with her face onContinue reading “Part 66: Relationships are Eternal”

The Shrink’s Links: Should I Stay or Should I Go?

  Bringing you the best of mental health every week. I picked up Should I Stay or Should I Go? hoping that I might find an algorithm for divorce or reconciliation, some kind of formula in which one could plug in factors and come away with an inarguable conclusion about how much effort couples shouldContinue reading “The Shrink’s Links: Should I Stay or Should I Go?”

Relationships, part 65: Can It, Should It, Be Saved?

Should you be in this relationship to begin with? Related questions are: Is it worth it to work so hard to save a relationship? Aren’t some beyond help? Might it be better to scrap it and start over somewhere else? What if you sacrifice everything to save your relationship, admit your faults, learn to listen,Continue reading “Relationships, part 65: Can It, Should It, Be Saved?”

The Shrink’s Links: The Human Magnet Syndrome

Bringing you the best of mental health every week. Why might you be attracted to people who hurt you? What can you do about it? Ross Rosenberg gives an answer to the first question in his book, The Human Magnet Syndrome. As for the second: you just have to leave them and then not hookContinue reading “The Shrink’s Links: The Human Magnet Syndrome”

The Shrink’s Links: CrowdMed

Bringing you the best of mental health every week. Do you have frustratingly complex medical symptoms that have you and your doctors baffled? Pay $199, submit your medical history anonymously to CrowdMed, and dozens, or even hundreds, of “medical detectives” will chime in. You get a list of suggestions, based on these detective’s rankings, toContinue reading “The Shrink’s Links: CrowdMed”

When Illness Takes Over: How to be a Sentry

  When illness takes over a relationship, it takes hard work to eradicate the intruder and eternal vigilance to keep it away. Relapse can be expected. When we are talking about addiction, it takes an average of seven real attempts before recovery feels solid and, even then, you won’t know if he’s going to needContinue reading “When Illness Takes Over: How to be a Sentry”

Some Things You May Not Know About Substance Abuse, Part 21: You can’t stop cravings from knocking at the door, but you don’t have to answer

You could stop using whatever it is that is destroying you and you will still think about it from time to time. You’ll have dreams of using. A beer truck might roll by and you’ll feel thirsty. That old life will seem good every now and then. You could have some very good reasons toContinue reading “Some Things You May Not Know About Substance Abuse, Part 21: You can’t stop cravings from knocking at the door, but you don’t have to answer”