Addiction lands you in the middle of an ancient controversy about whether humans have free will. This is not just a philosophic. What you believe about your ability to make choices will affect the choices you make.

Now for my observation.

Active addicts most often believe in determinism, recovering ones believe in free will.

Successful people believe they can be effectual. They have faith in themselves. They act as though their actions matter. They take responsibility. Unsuccessful people wait for others or circumstances to do it for them or say it can’t be done. They make excuses and look for someone or something else to blame.

Which do you want to be? Good, but you’ll need help.

My book, The Road to Reconciliation, is the best resource if your addiction has hurt a loved one and want to heal the relationship.

If you have some apologies to make for your addiction, this workbook will help you make one that should be accepted and help you change, so you don’t have to make another one again.

I have developed a 2 1/2 hour video course that helps people get on the Road to Reconciliation. You can watch it as many times as you need.

Part 1 is free, so you can see what it’s like. The cost of the entire course is $25.

Or, you can look at this partial list of articles I’ve written about addiction.

The Spectrum of Addiction

The Origin of Addiction

Is Addiction a Disease?

Zero Tolerance or Harm Reduction?

A Reflective Eclectic Treatment of Addiction

What Keeps You Addicted

Have You Been Groomed?

Cabin Fever: How Compulsion Feels From the Inside

Rat Park

Stop the Madness

A Reconciliation Case Study

The Baby in the Room

The Man Who Loved Lobster

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