The Art of War, that classic work of Chinese literature, written in from the 5th century BC and attributed to the ancient Chinese military strategist Sun Tzu, is packed with good advice on marriage, although marriage is never once mentioned. It is only one who is thoroughly acquainted with the evils of war that canContinue reading “How The Art of War Can Help Your Marriage”
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Asking for what you want without asking for trouble
All too often, people who know what they want, fail to get it, not because their partner is unwilling, but because they ask for it in a manner that starts a fight. If you’ve been following along as I describe the road to reconciliation and dealt first with your own shortcomings, before correcting the faultsContinue reading “Asking for what you want without asking for trouble”
What Kind of Justice Do You Want?
You caught your husband on ashleymadison.com, making arrangements to meet another woman. You’re outraged. You want him to make it right. But, what is right? Click here to continue reading
To Confess or Not to Confess, That is the Question
No question about it, confess to yourself. If you can’t be honest with yourself, who can you be honest with? If you believe in God, then confess to God. He knows anyway. If you have a neutral third party you can trust, then confess to her. Confession is cleansing. It’s a double check for bullshit.Continue reading “To Confess or Not to Confess, That is the Question”
Hedy Yumi
Bringing you the best of mental health every week. Hedy Yumi, an Israeli therapist, living in Washington DC, specializes in working with couples who are ready to make amends after an affair. If you’re ready, you could schedule an eighteen hour session with her, over two days, and get it done. The thing is, you’veContinue reading “Hedy Yumi”
Protected: What to Complain About
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Making your Apology Stick
All too many people apologize and promise to change, but fail to follow it up. Not only do they fail to fulfill their promises, but they even fail to notice whether they’ve fulfilled them or not.
10 Ways to Screw Up an Apology
If you’ve decided you can’t apologize to the person you hurt because it would hurt him more, then go with God. If you’ve decided you can’t apologize to the person you hurt because it would hurt you more, then see you in Hell. But, if you’ve decided you will apologize to the person you hurtContinue reading “10 Ways to Screw Up an Apology”
Confession to a Neutral Party
Once you have written your statement of responsibility for wronging someone, it’s time to put the show on the road. The essence of taking responsibility is to declare it to someone. It makes no sense to take responsibility in such a way that nobody hears it. When this particular tree falls in the forest, ifContinue reading “Confession to a Neutral Party”
Don’t ever let anyone talk you out of feeling guilty
Don’t ever let anyone talk you out of feeling guilty about something you’ve done. Even if what you did was not wrong, even if it was justified and every court in the land would agree; if you feel guilty, then OK, go ahead and accept it. Guilt is a guide. You can’t travel in aContinue reading “Don’t ever let anyone talk you out of feeling guilty”
Keith Wilson - Counseling 