To Confess or Not to Confess, That is the Question

No question about it, confess to yourself. If you can’t be honest with yourself, who can you be honest with?

If you believe in God, then confess to God. He knows anyway.

If you have a neutral third party you can trust, then confess to her. Confession is cleansing. It’s a double check for bullshit. It returns you to the land of the righteous.

The only time confession might be questionable is when your confession brings harm to the person you’ve already harmed.

The idea is that your confession should not be at the expense of the person you harmed and cause him to go through grief so you can feel better. That doesn’t seem to be the route to reconciliation. That road heads the wrong way. On the other hand, you’re cutting yourself off from a powerful source of healing, you are underestimating your victim’s capacity for grace, and you’re crawling even further in the dog house than you belong.  [Click here to continue reading]