Here’s another exercise that can improve your relationship. It’ll clear out all those labels and stories you’ve attached to your partner and help you see him or her as they are. It’s called Feeling While Touching. 1. Get within arm’s reach of your partner. 2. One person should go at a time. One person initiatingContinue reading “Relationships, Part 23: Feeling While Touching”
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Relationships, Part 22: The Thing in Itself
I have an object in my office, nailed to the wall, it looks like this: “What is this object?” I ask. Most people would say it’s a fly. “OK, why do I have a fly nailed to my wall?” “It must be a joke,” most say. “Fly on the Wall, get it?” “Is itContinue reading “Relationships, Part 22: The Thing in Itself”
The Shrink’s Links: Video Explaining Projection
Bringing you the best of mental health and relationship articles on the internet. Today’s link from the shrink is: If you read my last posts in the relationship series, attempting to explain projection and projective identification, and are still confused, then maybe this will help. Click here to go to the link
The Shrink’s Links: The Couple and Family Map
Bringing you the best of mental health and relationship articles on the internet. Today’s link from the shrink is: The Couple and Family Map Feeling lost in your relationship? Don’t know where you stand? It helps to have a map. Click here to go to the link
Relationships, Part 17: Sexual Boredom
If there ever was a good place for wantonness, it would be in marriage, yet I hear time and time again about how boring marital sex can be. You’re supposed to be able to be yourself with your partner and free to take risks to try something new. He’s in bed with you when youContinue reading “Relationships, Part 17: Sexual Boredom”
Relationships, Part 16: Desire and Power
Whomever has more desire has less power. This is the case no matter what you desire. If you go to a used car lot and find a car you desire, the moment you communicate that desire to the salesman, the price goes up. Whoever holds the object of desire gets to set the terms. WeContinue reading “Relationships, Part 16: Desire and Power”
Relationships, Part 15: When you Need Your Space, the Hat Method
Some days, you just need your space. The trouble is, your partner is there, too, and if you try to get some space, they may take it personally. You don’t want to get into a long discussion over why you need your space when you need your space. It may not be good to getContinue reading “Relationships, Part 15: When you Need Your Space, the Hat Method”
Relationships, Part 14: How Do You Respond to Bids for Attention?
1. Negative response “You want to go out to dinner tonight?” “I wouldn’t go out with you if you were the last man on earth.” It might discourage him from ever asking again. 2. Accusatory response “You want to go out to dinner tonight?” “You can’t make it up to me that easy.” Maybe not,Continue reading “Relationships, Part 14: How Do You Respond to Bids for Attention?”
Relationships, Part 13: The Dance of Relationship: A Guide to the Positions
When we think about love, we may picture something like this: This position is called Turning Towards. You’re facing each other and paying attention to no one but each other. You may be touching. You might believe this is the most desirable of the positions, but it’s very intense. It’s hard to do anything elseContinue reading “Relationships, Part 13: The Dance of Relationship: A Guide to the Positions”
The Shrink’s Links: Still I Rise
Bringing you the best of mental health and relationship articles on the internet. Today’s link from the shrink is: Still I Rise Feeling oppressed? Recite this poem to yourself and you’ll feel ready to take it on, anyway. Good for all types of oppression. Click here to go to the link Related articles The Shrink’sContinue reading “The Shrink’s Links: Still I Rise”
Keith Wilson - Counseling 