What my Tennis Coach Taught Me about Change

How can reading a blog help you change? It can’t. You can’t learn to play tennis by reading, either. You’ve got to play. I took tennis lessons once. The coach asked me to show him my serve. I hit a few. I looked over and saw him shake his head. “We have a lot ofContinue reading “What my Tennis Coach Taught Me about Change”

Freud, Explained

Of all the figures in shrinkdom, Freud is the most revered and reviled, the most quoted and misquoted, and the most influential and ignored. It used to be that every shrink wanted to be like him, now we want to challenge him and be as different as we can. Perhaps this is what he getsContinue reading “Freud, Explained”

Relaxation Therapy

Bringing you the best of mental health. Once upon a time, a client came into the community mental health clinic where I worked, checked in with the receptionist, and, instead of sitting in the waiting room till I came to get her, went straight to the lady’s room and slit her wrist. She had slitContinue reading “Relaxation Therapy”

Therapy and Spirituality

Bringing you the best of mental health every week. I recently read and was asked to review Eastern Wisdom Western Soul by Richard Singer. It got me thinking about how us shrinks handle spirituality. There are basically three ways. We can, a) ignore it and pretend it doesn’t matter; b) help the client work throughContinue reading “Therapy and Spirituality”

The Shrink’s Links: Book Review: Internal Family Systems Therapy

Bringing you the best of mental health every week. You are divided. You must have noticed this when you’re trying to decide whether to have that chocolate cake, or stick to your diet; when you rise, groaning from your bed, despite how comfortable that pillow looks; when you want to tell your boss to shoveContinue reading “The Shrink’s Links: Book Review: Internal Family Systems Therapy”

Taming the Pumpkin, or, How to Influence People without Getting Wacked

Once upon a time a traveler hiked down from the mountains into a remote valley to find all the farmers there in a panic. They were running from their vegetable garden into their village, screaming. The women clutched their children close and the men grabbed their hoes, rakes, and pitchforks to defend themselves. “What’s wrong?”Continue reading “Taming the Pumpkin, or, How to Influence People without Getting Wacked”

Everything you need to know about confidentiality

Counseling will work to the degree that you are confident my office is a safe place to bring up sensitive matters, but you will have to take some risks. The things we talk about are confidential. I will not repeat the things we discuss in a way that can be traced back and identified withContinue reading “Everything you need to know about confidentiality”

The Shrink’s Links: A Consequential, Niggling Detail

Bringing you the best of mental health every week. Today I’m going to write about something that should be irrelevant and of no concern to you, but may affect you, nonetheless: the licensing of people who perform psychotherapy. Licenses exist so the consumer can know who to trust and who has the necessary training andContinue reading “The Shrink’s Links: A Consequential, Niggling Detail”

The Shrink’s Links: Video Explaining Projection

Bringing you the best of mental health and relationship articles on the internet. Today’s link from the shrink is: If you read my last posts in the relationship series, attempting to explain projection and projective identification, and are still confused, then maybe this will help. Click here to go to the link

A New Development: The After Visit Summary

The latest good idea I’ve had about counseling I got from visiting my allergist. I have allergies. If you ever sat with me in a counseling session and I had tears in my eyes, it might have been due to what you were saying; sometimes I am deeply moved. But probably my allergies were responsible.Continue reading “A New Development: The After Visit Summary”