Bringing you the best of mental health every week. People go crazy because they’re bored. Workers hate their jobs because they are bored. Partners cheat on their spouses because they are bored. The leading reason why addicts tell me they relapse is they are bored. Also, writers write, painters paint, players play, and inventors inventContinue reading “The Shrink’s Links: Book Review: Boredom”
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The Shrink’s Links: The Defensive Functioning Scale
Bringing you the best of mental health every week. It’s not a question of whether or not you use psychological defenses. Everybody does. It’s really a question of what they are. Some, you see, are better than others. The first defenses we develop are the primitive ones, cheap and dirty, the barrel bombs of psychologicalContinue reading “The Shrink’s Links: The Defensive Functioning Scale”
The Shrink’s Links: Constructive Conflict
Bringing you the best of mental health every week. My book, Constructive Conflict, has just been published in print and in Kindle. Conflict in relationships is inevitable. If you haven’t had a conflict yet, you haven’t been paying attention. Communication increases conflict. If you haven’t had a conflict yet, you haven’t really been talking. ConflictContinue reading “The Shrink’s Links: Constructive Conflict”
The Shrink’s Links: The Things They Carried
Bringing you the best of mental health every week. For today, Memorial Day, I have a quote from The Things They Carried, by Tim O’Brien: They carried USO stationery and pencils and pens. They carried Sterno, safety pins, trip flares, signal flares, spools of wire, razor blades, chewing tobacco, liberated joss sticks and statuettes ofContinue reading “The Shrink’s Links: The Things They Carried”
Things in My Office: The Stone, a Symbol of Perfection
It’s time again to introduce you to another item in my office. It’s a stone. I got this stone while hiking in Colorado. It was a perfect day, with perfect weather, and perfect companions. The trail was the perfect length and not too steep or too flat. There were great mountains in the distance andContinue reading “Things in My Office: The Stone, a Symbol of Perfection”
The Shrink’s Links: 75 Ways To Add Variety
Bringing you the best of mental health every week. Many couples say that, after a few years, it’s easy to get in a rut with your partner, sex-wise. You think you know each other, backwards and forwards, and have tried everything. Chances are, you’re wrong. There’s something you haven’t thought of. Or, maybe you haveContinue reading “The Shrink’s Links: 75 Ways To Add Variety”
The Shrink’s Links: An Honest Meditation
Bringing you the best of mental health every week. If you enjoy meditation, and don’t mind profanity, try this the next time you need to relax. If you don’t like meditation, but like to laugh, send the children out to play, and watch this video, as long as you don’t mind profanity. Click here toContinue reading “The Shrink’s Links: An Honest Meditation”
Reacknowledgment: April is the Cruelest Month
I posted something like this last year, but it bears repeating. Contrary to popular belief, suicide rates do not peak at Christmas time. Here in Western New York, as elsewhere, they peak in April. So does all kinds of psychiatric hospitalization, depression and relapses of addiction. Why is this so, when hopes of Spring abound?Continue reading “Reacknowledgment: April is the Cruelest Month”
The Shrink’s Links: Consumer Affair’s Guide to Online Dating
Dating when you’re single can be confusing. Getting back to dating after loss or divorce can be terrifying. Dating while you’re still married is a recipe for disaster. No matter what your marital status is, you need guidance, especially if you’re using online dating sites. Consumer Affairs has a free publication that helps you sortContinue reading “The Shrink’s Links: Consumer Affair’s Guide to Online Dating”
The Shrink’s Links: The Road to Reconciliation
Beginning this Friday, I will be posting chapters of a new weekly series, The Road to Reconciliation. This is a writing project I’ve been working on that spells out the process couples take to put old injuries and disappointments behind them and move on to a more functional, satisfying relationship. On this website, I willContinue reading “The Shrink’s Links: The Road to Reconciliation”
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