If you get the opportunity to work with your loved one to vanquish the Problem, don’t mistake this opportunity for the Problem, itself. You could blow your chance because of the presence of your own Problem. Let’s say your husband has not been able to keep it in his pants. He’s flirted with others, cheatedContinue reading “Team Up with the Person Against the Problem”
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What if nothing changes?
If you effectively ask for your loved one to right a wrong he committed, you might find that he’s interested in what you have to say and will do everything he can to please you and become a better person in the process. He just might surprise you and change. Continue reading
Sharpening the Point Till You Miss It
There are two way of asking for what you want; you can be broad, or you can be precise. It’s possible to be too broad or too precise. Let’s say you’ve been together for years and you have become vaguely dissatisfied. Nothing really bad has happened between you; but nothing exciting has happened, either. OneContinue reading “Sharpening the Point Till You Miss It”
Asking for what you want without asking for trouble
All too often, people who know what they want, fail to get it, not because their partner is unwilling, but because they ask for it in a manner that starts a fight. If you’ve been following along as I describe the road to reconciliation and dealt first with your own shortcomings, before correcting the faultsContinue reading “Asking for what you want without asking for trouble”
Hedy Yumi
Bringing you the best of mental health every week. Hedy Yumi, an Israeli therapist, living in Washington DC, specializes in working with couples who are ready to make amends after an affair. If you’re ready, you could schedule an eighteen hour session with her, over two days, and get it done. The thing is, you’veContinue reading “Hedy Yumi”
Protected: What to Complain About
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Bringing you the best of mental health. Is an apology that’s not said out loud really an apology? What if the person expressing the apology doesn’t draw attention to it?
Making your Apology Stick
All too many people apologize and promise to change, but fail to follow it up. Not only do they fail to fulfill their promises, but they even fail to notice whether they’ve fulfilled them or not.
10 Ways to Screw Up an Apology
If you’ve decided you can’t apologize to the person you hurt because it would hurt him more, then go with God. If you’ve decided you can’t apologize to the person you hurt because it would hurt you more, then see you in Hell. But, if you’ve decided you will apologize to the person you hurtContinue reading “10 Ways to Screw Up an Apology”
Confession to a Neutral Party
Once you have written your statement of responsibility for wronging someone, it’s time to put the show on the road. The essence of taking responsibility is to declare it to someone. It makes no sense to take responsibility in such a way that nobody hears it. When this particular tree falls in the forest, ifContinue reading “Confession to a Neutral Party”
Keith Wilson - Counseling 