Sooner or later, if you come to me for therapy, I’ll ask you to put, in a single sentence, your objective in seeing me. I ask this because I want to know how to be successful. I also want you to define your goal. The most common answer I get is something like, “I wantContinue reading “Why Ask Why?”
Category Archives: The Reflective Eclectic: A Guide to Therapy
Can You See a Therapist for Couple’s Counseling Who You’re Already Seeing for Individual Counseling?
When I’m working with you in individual counseling towards one goal, can you start couple’s counseling with me and your partner, towards a different goal? It seems like having only one therapist do both would be more convenient, but many therapists flat out refuse because of the complications that may ensue. Some believe it’s unethical,Continue reading “Can You See a Therapist for Couple’s Counseling Who You’re Already Seeing for Individual Counseling?”
Sorry, But Your Ex Is Probably Not a Narcissist
Sorry, But Your Ex Is Probably Not a Narcissist The Hazards of Self-Help In 1969, George Miller, the president of the American Psychological Association urged psychologists to “give psychology away”. There were too many problems and too few psychologists for them to hoard their knowledge. Instead, psychology should be popularized and spread to the public,Continue reading “Sorry, But Your Ex Is Probably Not a Narcissist”
The Schopenhauer Cure
Irvin Yalom’s Relief from Despair If your anxiety and depression has made you turn on everyone and everything, if the closest you get to other people is in the commission of your sexual addiction, if you’re so spiteful, grouchy, and malevolent that even your own mother can’t stand the sight of you, if you’re anyContinue reading “The Schopenhauer Cure”
The Dangers of Self-Actualization
Did Nietzsche Lose His Way? Before anybody started talking about self-actualization[i], there was Nietzsche who taught us how to become who we are. Then he went mad and never made sense again. That being the case, can we trust him, or any of the people who speak about self-actualization, to be our guides?
Can the Enneagram Be Trusted?
Or Is the Nine Pointed Guide to Personality No Better Than Astrology? I’ve been coming across more and more people talking about their Enneagram type. Luckily, I’ve heard of the Enneagram before and already know what they’re talking about. I’m a Type Five, with a Four wing. If you don’t know what that means, bearContinue reading “Can the Enneagram Be Trusted?“
Don’t Force It
Especially when trying to bring about change My father was a car mechanic. When I was a kid, he tried to teach me all about cars, but I wasn’t very interested. After a while, he might have thought he was wasting his time, but one of his lessons stuck with me. I think about itContinue reading “Don’t Force It”
Multiple Views of Dissociative Identity Disorder
There aren’t many mental illnesses that therapists are accused of creating, but dissociative identity disorder (DID), or multiple personality disorder, as it officially used to be known, is one of them. Continue reading →
Do You Really Have a Choice with Your Feelings?
If you say you got pisssed off, gripped by fear, sadness overcame you, lost hope, filled with gratitude, or overwhelmed by joy; the passive voice you use about your feelings reveals a misconception of how they work. Continue reading →
Igniting Change with the Principles of Motivational Enhancement Therapy
Most methods of psychotherapy are designed for the therapist to help the client. Motivational Enhancement Therapy (MET) seems to be one of these; but it’s actually therapy for the therapist when standard Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) just isn’t working. Continue reading →
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