Bringing you the best of mental health every week. Why might you be attracted to people who hurt you? What can you do about it? Ross Rosenberg gives an answer to the first question in his book, The Human Magnet Syndrome. As for the second: you just have to leave them and then not hookContinue reading “The Shrink’s Links: The Human Magnet Syndrome”
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When Illness Takes Over: How to be a Sentry
When illness takes over a relationship, it takes hard work to eradicate the intruder and eternal vigilance to keep it away. Relapse can be expected. When we are talking about addiction, it takes an average of seven real attempts before recovery feels solid and, even then, you won’t know if he’s going to needContinue reading “When Illness Takes Over: How to be a Sentry”
The Shrink’s Links: Mary Gauthier
Bringing you the best of mental health every week. I went to hear Mary Gauthier in a concert a few weeks ago. From an earlier life of abandonment, addiction, and despair, she harvested songs that say it all. She’s one of the good ones, the type who, even though she may have let go ofContinue reading “The Shrink’s Links: Mary Gauthier”
The Shrink’s Links: Long Distance Relationships
Bringing you the best of mental health every week. Bringing you the best of mental health every week. Here’s something I bet you didn’t know, I didn’t. Despite what many people believe, research shows: • Couples in long distance relationships do not break up at any greater rate than more traditional, geographically close, couples. •Continue reading “The Shrink’s Links: Long Distance Relationships”
The Shrink’s Links: Car Talk
I was grieved to have learned that Tom Magliozzi, the co-host of Car Talk, recently died. I remember him for his marital advice, as much as I do for what he taught me about cars. Here’s a bit of his wisdom: I have my own law of marriage. It is more important to be happyContinue reading “The Shrink’s Links: Car Talk”
Therapy Joke
What did the porcupines say to each other when the went to see the marriage counselor? “I get your point.”
The Shrink’s Links: Mating in Captivity
Bringing you the best of mental health every week. Mating in Captivity A few weeks ago, I brought you her Ted Talk, which I had first discovered. I was so taken by the hypothesis she presented that I went out and bought her book, Mating in Captivity. I was not disappointed. Why does sexual desireContinue reading “The Shrink’s Links: Mating in Captivity”
The Shrink’s Links: The Secret to Desire in Long Term Relationships
Bringing you the best of mental health and relationship articles on the internet. Today’s link from the shrink is: The Secret to Desire in Long Term Relationships In long-term relationships, we often expect our beloved to be both best friend and erotic partner. But as Esther Perel argues, good and committed sex draws on twoContinue reading “The Shrink’s Links: The Secret to Desire in Long Term Relationships”
Relationships, Part 29: Collusion versus Collaboration
Not all associations are collaborative. Some associations have no shared goals. Others form a collusion. Collaboration involves working together for mutual benefit; collusion permits people to escape their responsibilities and avoid difficult issues. One party agrees to look the other way in exchange for the other doing the same. The wife who fakes orgasm soContinue reading “Relationships, Part 29: Collusion versus Collaboration”
Relationships, Part 28: Collaboration
We could accomplish so much more together than we ever can individually, but often we don’t. Alliances fall apart. At the heart of every productive human connection is collaboration: an implicit or explicit agreement to cooperate with one another and work towards shared goals. Collaboration is found in all human relationships: sports teams, work groups,Continue reading “Relationships, Part 28: Collaboration”
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