Chapter 7a of Meeting the Voices in My Head and Searching for an Inner Adult Your head must be reeling with all the inhabitants of my mind I’ve introduced so far. How do you think I feel, with everyone chattering away, wanting me to do what they say? Between the Innermost Child, The Face ofContinue reading “The Rebel”
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The Critic in Disguise
Chapter 6c of Meeting the Voices in My Head and Searching for an Inner Adult An Inner Critic will sometimes disguise itself as someone else to give more authority to the things it says. That happened to me once at the grocery store. I was happily browsing in the coffee aisle when a woman cameContinue reading “The Critic in Disguise”
Shame’s Minions: The Inner Critics
Chapter 6b of Meeting the Voices in My Head and Searching for an Inner Adult Shame has such an important job to do, to protect me from rejection, that it spawns a horde of minions to do much of its work. These are the Inner Critics, who dominate a great deal of airtime in myContinue reading “Shame’s Minions: The Inner Critics”
Shame
Chapter 6a of Meeting the Voices in My Head and Searching for an Inner Adult The other night, I walked into Starbucks, placed an order, and, when I reached for my wallet, discovered I forgot not only my wallet but also my pants. Fortunately, this was only a dream, but I didn’t know it atContinue reading “Shame”
Fear at the Grand Canyon
Chapter 5b of Meeting the Voices in My Head and Searching for an Inner Adult It was an ordinary day inside my head. I was relaxed, happy, and had not a care in the world. All the people in my brain were getting along. I couldn’t ask for any better than that. Outside my head,Continue reading “Fear at the Grand Canyon”
The Evolution and Domestication of Feelings
Chapter 5a of Meeting the Voices in My Head and Searching for an Inner Adult I suspect I’m not going to find my Inner Adult in my feelings. There doesn’t seem to be anything adult about them. Good or bad, they are some of the most childish things I’ve got. How can I be soContinue reading “The Evolution and Domestication of Feelings”
Are the Inner Voices of My Parents My Inner Adults?
Chapter 4b of Meeting the Voices in My Head and Searching for an Inner Adult Parents hope you will install bots of themselves in your brain for when they can’t be around to stop you from doing things they would disapprove. If your father was the kind that yelled at you when you swiped aContinue reading “Are the Inner Voices of My Parents My Inner Adults?”
The Bot I Call My Parent
Chapter 4a of Meeting the Voices in My Head and Searching for an Inner Adult When we closed the last post, we left me screaming, alone in my crib. Eventually, I learned to accept transitional objects I call security blankets to help me pretend I wasn’t alone. At this stage of my life, they wereContinue reading “The Bot I Call My Parent”
The Security Blanket
Chapter 3b of Meeting the Voices in My Head and Searching for an Inner Adult In the last installment, I began to talk about how babies learn to cope with being left alone in their crib and the long-term outcome of this universal experience. The baby finds itself in an abyss, utterly helpless and confusedContinue reading “The Security Blanket”
How to Cope with Being Left Alone
Chapter 3a of Meeting the Voices in My Head and Searching for an Inner Adult There had to be a time when I was a baby, left in my crib, screaming my head off, wondering if someone would ever come. Someone did, but not before a momentous realization occurred. Up until that point, I mightContinue reading “How to Cope with Being Left Alone”