What Do I Do with the People Inside My Head?

Part I of Subpersonalities: The People Inside Us It’s not uncommon to feel that there is more than just you inside your head. There seems to be a board of directors, at best, or a squabbling family, a mutinous crew, or a polarized congress up there, at worse. You may feel that someone sort ofContinue reading “What Do I Do with the People Inside My Head?”

Burdens and the Peddlers That Traffic in Them

If the inside of my own head is any indication, we all carry psychological burdens. If that’s not bad enough, we try to trade one burden for another and end up carrying them both. I got one of my burdens when I was about eight years old, riding the school bus. No one would sitContinue reading “Burdens and the Peddlers That Traffic in Them”

The Rebel’s Constituency

Part 7f of Meeting the Voices in My Head and Searching for an Inner Adult Like any oppositional leader, the Rebel claims to speak for the marginalized, in this case, the Innermost Child. If you remember, the Innermost Child is the original part of me, but it’s still there. It feels things that are notContinue reading “The Rebel’s Constituency”

Continuous Revolution

Part 7e of Meeting the Voices in My Head and Searching for an Inner Adult Revolution gives over to tyranny. Having won the right to untuck my shirt from my Simulated Parents, I needed to continue marching against my Simulated Peers or they would be the next oppressors. Usually people exert some independence, but getContinue reading “Continuous Revolution”

The Story of the Shirt Tail

Part 7d of Meeting the Voices in My Head and Searching for an Inner Adult When I was in sixth grade, the Student Council succeeded in getting some parts of the school’s dress code revised. This was in 1968 and I guess the faculty couldn’t resist the overwhelming tide of change any longer, so theyContinue reading “The Story of the Shirt Tail”

Nature’s Problem and Its Solution

Chapter 7c of Meeting the Voices in My Head and Searching for an Inner Adult Nature has a problem. It needs to stir the pot. It wants you to get out, take chances, spread your seed, and do stuff. Furthermore, it needs you to be a little different from everyone else, so the species canContinue reading “Nature’s Problem and Its Solution”

The Self Concept

Chapter 7b of Meeting the Voices in My Head and Searching for an Inner Adult The mission of the Rebel is to claim certain feelings, beliefs, and practices as my own, distinct from others. It establishes the boundaries of the Self and assiduously patrols them. It guards my individuality and protects me from losing myContinue reading “The Self Concept”

The Critic in Disguise

Chapter 6c of Meeting the Voices in My Head and Searching for an Inner Adult An Inner Critic will sometimes disguise itself as someone else to give more authority to the things it says. That happened to me once at the grocery store. I was happily browsing in the coffee aisle when a woman cameContinue reading “The Critic in Disguise”