TELL

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What can you do if your therapist turns out to be abusive? Who can you tell? You can tell TELL, the Therapy Exploitation Link Line. Here’s the link to the link line, so you can tell TELL.

TELL is a resource, referral, and networking organization that seeks to help victims and survivors of exploitation by psychotherapists and other healthcare providers find the support and resources they will need to understand what has happened to them, take action, and heal.

I wouldn’t have known to tell you about TELL had I not been asked to review a book by one woman who turned to that organization for help in recovering from a psychotherapist gone bad. The book is Mending the Shattered Mirror: A Journey of Recovery from Abuse in Therapy by Analie Shepherd.Continue reading “TELL”

ROCovery Fitness

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One of the hardest things about being in recovery is knowing what to do with yourself. Being addicted takes lots of time. There’s scoring the drugs, using the drugs, and recovering from the drugs. All that fills up your day. Then, stay in addiction long enough and the only ones left in your life will be other addicted people. These may not be best the folks to spend time with when you are in recovery. Therefore, recovering people have two great needs. They need healthy thing to do and healthy people to do them with.Continue reading “ROCovery Fitness”

Building Walls

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When people change from being non-engaged politically to becoming activists, the first thing they do hinders everything they try to accomplish afterwards. They rally like-minded people to their cause and build a wall. This renders their activism less effective and obstructs the exercise of statecraft.Continue reading “Building Walls”

Motivational Enhancement Therapy

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Most methods of psychotherapy are designed for the therapist to help the client. Motivational Enhancement Therapy (MET) seems to be one of these; but it’s actually therapy for the therapist  when standard Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) just ain’t working.Continue reading “Motivational Enhancement Therapy”

Making Amends is Better than Making Apologies

rr-imageNo one is interested in your apologies, unless you back them up with a change in behavior. Making amends repairs the damage; making apologies is only a promise to repair the damage. One is action; the other, words. One will cost you something; it might even bring about a transformation. The other is as cheap as spent air, blown out in such a way as to make noise with your lips. The word amends comes from the Middle French for reparation. The word apology comes from the Greek for justification. Let me ask you; when you’re hurt, what do you want more, reparation or justification?

I thought so. Save your apologies; work towards making amends.Continue reading “Making Amends is Better than Making Apologies”

Cognitive Behavioral Therapy

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Life doesn’t come with an instruction manual. You have emotions, but they’re often at odds with your best thinking. Thoughts come along, but a lot of them are as crazy as the emotions. You have habits, but some will be your undoing. What are you supposed to do with these emotions, thoughts, and behaviors? How do you get rid of the ones you don’t want and cultivate the ones you do? Somewhere, close by, a cognitive behavioral therapist is ready to roll up his sleeves and tell you.
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Don’t ever let anyone talk you out of feeling guilty

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Don’t ever let anyone talk you out of feeling guilty about something you’ve done.

Even if what you did was not wrong, even if it was justified and every court in the land would agree; if you feel guilty, then OK, go ahead and accept it.

Guilt is a guide. You can’t travel in a foreign country, and expect not to get lost, without a guide of some sort; be it a live human, or a guidebook, or signs by the side of the road. Guilt is your guide towards self improvement, an usher that shows the way to reconciliation.Continue reading “Don’t ever let anyone talk you out of feeling guilty”

Rogerian Person Centered Counseling

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A therapist who doesn’t practice Rogerian Person Centered Counseling is like a musician who doesn’t practice scales. It is so basic and foundational that I wouldn’t know what to do without it. But, going to a therapist who only practices Rogerian Person Centered Counseling is like listening to a musician practicing scales. It gets pretty tedious and you wonder if it’ll ever go anywhere.Continue reading “Rogerian Person Centered Counseling”