What Color Are Your Glasses?

You know what rose colored glasses are, right? People who are said to be wearing rose colored glasses are said to be seeing the world as only pleasant and happy. We scoff at people wearing rose colored glasses. They are naive, sanguine, and overly optimistic. But, glasses come in all colors. They all distort your perception. Continue reading →

How I Made Peace With My Inner Critic

And saw him for who he really is

As a writer and a shrink, I’m intimately familiar with the inner critic, both my own and others’. You might expect us to be natural enemies. Most of my clients come to me complaining about their inner critics and asking me to silence them. If only they didn’t have this voice in their head constantly demeaning them, they would be happier than they are.

I would caution you from taking up arms too quickly against your inner critic, much less enlisting a therapist in the battle. You already have one critic; you would not be better off with a second. One’s already criticizing you for everything you do, the second would end up criticizing the first for being too critical. They will not get along. Continue reading →

Take Out the Garbage

Letting go of grudges, repeatedly

I once facilitated a group for people recovering from severe mental illnesses. We met once a week and they talked about how things were going for them. They tried to support each other. One day a member of the group came in and said his landlord was going to evict him if he failed to clean his apartment. Landlords can do that if the apartment is really bad. We knew that just talking about it and offering moral support was not going to help him much; so, the next week, we all went to his place to help him clean. In the end, he got to keep his apartment and I got a story about letting go. Continue reading →

Wrangling the Parts of Your Mind

How Internal Family Systems Therapy Can Help

You are divided. You must have noticed this when you’re trying to decide whether to have that chocolate cake, or stick to your diet; when you rise, groaning from your bed, despite how comfortable that pillow looks; when you want to tell your boss to shove it, but instead say, Yes Sir. Continue reading →

My New Novel: Who Killed the Lisping Barista of the Epiphany Café?

My new novel, Who Killed the Lisping Barista of the Epiphany Café?, is available now in Kindle. It’s a murder mystery investigating the mysteries of life.

I have a limited number of free copies I can send to readers who would write a review before it comes out in paperback. Please give me your email address if you are interested.

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Check your Dashboard

It can tell you how you’re feeling

I’d like to interrupt whatever else you might be doing to remind you to check your dashboard; you’ll find there almost all the information you need to keep things running smoothly.

No, I don’t mean the dashboard in your car, although you should be checking that regularly, as well. I mean your body’s dashboard. You can see it when you look within. Continue reading →