Author Archives: Keith R Wilson

Relationships, part 69: A New Lease on your Relationship

If you leased out a portion of your life, what would the terms and conditions be? You own an apartment building with an almost infinite number of apartments, but, once someone moves in, you can never evict them, and they can never leave. You can move them from one apartment to the other. There’s onlyContinue reading “Relationships, part 69: A New Lease on your Relationship”

The Shrink’s Links: Lincoln’s Depression

Bringing you the best of mental health every week. Lincoln’s Great Depression Abraham Lincoln fought clinical depression all his life, and if he were alive today, his condition would be treated as a “character issue”—that is, as a political liability. His condition was indeed a character issue: it gave him the tools to save theContinue reading “The Shrink’s Links: Lincoln’s Depression”

Relationships, part 68: The Problem with Talking About Love

When you were a baby and became uncomfortable, you didn’t know what you wanted. You could scream, but you had no words to describe what was going on with you or what would change it. Your parents didn’t either. They would try one thing and then another; give you food, change your diaper, burp you,Continue reading “Relationships, part 68: The Problem with Talking About Love”

The Shrink’s Links: How to Date Successfully

Bringing you the best of mental health every week. If you expect to be alone for Valentine’s Day and don’t want to be, you may be interested in attending a class that my friend, Dolly Malik, will be leading on how to date successfully. The class will be at the Rochester Brainery on Monday, FebruaryContinue reading “The Shrink’s Links: How to Date Successfully”

Relationships, part 67: How Do I Love Thee, Let me Count the Ways

What do you mean when you say I love you? The word love can be used to cover a multitude of sentiments. There is tremendous variety among those who march under the banner of love, from the most selfless angels to the most hate-filled devils. When you say love do you mean? · I wantContinue reading “Relationships, part 67: How Do I Love Thee, Let me Count the Ways”

Announcement: Video Counseling

After more than a year, I have resumed the practice of offering video counseling to folks who, for one reason or another, cannot come to see me at my office. I used to do this quite a bit, back when I had just started my practice and was building up my caseload. Then two thingsContinue reading “Announcement: Video Counseling”

Part 66: Relationships are Eternal

Once you are in a relationship with someone, you will always be in a relationship with that person. It’s like the Hotel California, you can never leave. I don’t care if you never speak to her again, if you move to the other side of the world, put up a dartboard with her face onContinue reading “Part 66: Relationships are Eternal”

The Shrink’s Links: Should I Stay or Should I Go?

  Bringing you the best of mental health every week. I picked up Should I Stay or Should I Go? hoping that I might find an algorithm for divorce or reconciliation, some kind of formula in which one could plug in factors and come away with an inarguable conclusion about how much effort couples shouldContinue reading “The Shrink’s Links: Should I Stay or Should I Go?”

Relationships, part 65: Can It, Should It, Be Saved?

Should you be in this relationship to begin with? Related questions are: Is it worth it to work so hard to save a relationship? Aren’t some beyond help? Might it be better to scrap it and start over somewhere else? What if you sacrifice everything to save your relationship, admit your faults, learn to listen,Continue reading “Relationships, part 65: Can It, Should It, Be Saved?”