Most of what passes for forgiveness is actually a cut-rate imitation, an easy, breezy amnesty that you extend, not because it’s earned, but because you don’t want to deal with it. It preserves the connection you have with the person who offended you. You don’t have to fight, express your feelings, or watch anyone squirm.Continue reading “The Road to Reconciliation: Cheap Pardon”
Author Archives: Keith R Wilson
The Shrink’s Links: Consumer Affair’s Guide to Online Dating
Dating when you’re single can be confusing. Getting back to dating after loss or divorce can be terrifying. Dating while you’re still married is a recipe for disaster. No matter what your marital status is, you need guidance, especially if you’re using online dating sites. Consumer Affairs has a free publication that helps you sortContinue reading “The Shrink’s Links: Consumer Affair’s Guide to Online Dating”
The Road to Reconciliation
You’re wounded and angry. Someone close to you, who should be loving you, hurt you instead. You don’t know what to do. Should you stay or should you go? Put up with the shit, or give it right back to him? Retaliate or bury your feelings? If neither choice seems very good, it’s because neitherContinue reading “The Road to Reconciliation”
The Shrink’s Links: The Road to Reconciliation
Beginning this Friday, I will be posting chapters of a new weekly series, The Road to Reconciliation. This is a writing project I’ve been working on that spells out the process couples take to put old injuries and disappointments behind them and move on to a more functional, satisfying relationship. On this website, I willContinue reading “The Shrink’s Links: The Road to Reconciliation”
Getting Help
We’ve been seeing what happens when addiction takes over a relationship. The people in the relationship disappear and the needs of the addiction consume everything. If you’re the person with the addiction, your job is to recover. If you’re the other person, your job is to recognize the diseased portion of the relationship, stay connectedContinue reading “Getting Help”
The Shrink’s Links: Self Directed Search
Bringing you the best of mental health every week. Even if you’re, like, forty-three years old and don’t know what you want to be when you grow up, you can discover your bliss with the Holland Self Directed Search. Being unsure of one’s vocation actually happens far more often than you think. The average personContinue reading “The Shrink’s Links: Self Directed Search”
Calibrating your Compass
Take a perfectly functional compass and put it in a room with an electromagnet and it will forget which way is north. It’ll point to the magnet because the magnet is exerting a force that it cannot ignore, far more powerful than that exercised by the distant, measly north pole. When addiction enters a relationshipContinue reading “Calibrating your Compass”
The Shrink’s Links: NYS Department of Health, Bureau of Managed Care Division
Bringing you the best of mental health every week. Having no health insurance can kill you, but having insurance can frustrate you half to death. Many of the calls I get from prospective clients are people with insurance, but, for whatever reason, their insurance will not cover them to see me. Every other therapist IContinue reading “The Shrink’s Links: NYS Department of Health, Bureau of Managed Care Division”
Create Addiction Free Zones
If addiction has taken over your relationship, there’s plenty that you can do other than succumb to its evil yourself. Just because your boyfriend wants to get piss-drunk every time you go out, doesn’t mean you have to clean him up. Even if your girlfriend picks fights with everyone, doesn’t mean you have to makeContinue reading “Create Addiction Free Zones”
The Baby in the Room
You know what it’s like when there’s a baby in the room. At best, the baby is delightful and everyone is cooing and coddling the cute little tyke. At worse, the baby’s screams prevent anyone else from saying a word or even thinking a complete thought. If the baby is upset, then everything must stopContinue reading “The Baby in the Room”
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