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Author Archives: Keith R Wilson
The Road to Reconciliation: Commit to Values
Once you get in touch with your feelings and allow them to speak to you, they can point you to what is important. They’ll remind you of aspirations you’ve had since you were small. They’ll indicate the direction towards life satisfaction. They’ll give instructions for a meaningful life. To the extent you’ve been victimized, yourContinue reading “The Road to Reconciliation: Commit to Values”
Announcement: Coming out of the Closet
The other day I went to a workshop so that I could learn something new. Us shrinks do this frequently because we don’t already know everything. This workshop, entitled, Can We Talk, was held at the Gay Alliance of Rochester. It promised to teach me about transgender issues. I learned about transgender issues. I alsoContinue reading “Announcement: Coming out of the Closet”
The Road to Reconciliation: Honor your Feelings
If you’re the victim, you take the first step towards repair by honoring your feelings. You’ve been putting up with a lot. This relationship is not what you thought it would be. There have been lots of problems; but, you say, there are problems in every relationship. You have to take the good with theContinue reading “The Road to Reconciliation: Honor your Feelings”
Reacknowledgment: April is the Cruelest Month
I posted something like this last year, but it bears repeating. Contrary to popular belief, suicide rates do not peak at Christmas time. Here in Western New York, as elsewhere, they peak in April. So does all kinds of psychiatric hospitalization, depression and relapses of addiction. Why is this so, when hopes of Spring abound?Continue reading “Reacknowledgment: April is the Cruelest Month”
The Road to Reconciliation: Cheap Pardon
Most of what passes for forgiveness is actually a cut-rate imitation, an easy, breezy amnesty that you extend, not because it’s earned, but because you don’t want to deal with it. It preserves the connection you have with the person who offended you. You don’t have to fight, express your feelings, or watch anyone squirm.Continue reading “The Road to Reconciliation: Cheap Pardon”
The Shrink’s Links: Consumer Affair’s Guide to Online Dating
Dating when you’re single can be confusing. Getting back to dating after loss or divorce can be terrifying. Dating while you’re still married is a recipe for disaster. No matter what your marital status is, you need guidance, especially if you’re using online dating sites. Consumer Affairs has a free publication that helps you sortContinue reading “The Shrink’s Links: Consumer Affair’s Guide to Online Dating”
The Road to Reconciliation
You’re wounded and angry. Someone close to you, who should be loving you, hurt you instead. You don’t know what to do. Should you stay or should you go? Put up with the shit, or give it right back to him? Retaliate or bury your feelings? If neither choice seems very good, it’s because neitherContinue reading “The Road to Reconciliation”
The Shrink’s Links: The Road to Reconciliation
Beginning this Friday, I will be posting chapters of a new weekly series, The Road to Reconciliation. This is a writing project I’ve been working on that spells out the process couples take to put old injuries and disappointments behind them and move on to a more functional, satisfying relationship. On this website, I willContinue reading “The Shrink’s Links: The Road to Reconciliation”
Getting Help
We’ve been seeing what happens when addiction takes over a relationship. The people in the relationship disappear and the needs of the addiction consume everything. If you’re the person with the addiction, your job is to recover. If you’re the other person, your job is to recognize the diseased portion of the relationship, stay connectedContinue reading “Getting Help”
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