Stand with your feet comfortably together. If you want to go somewhere, what do you do? You take one foot and put it forward until you throw yourself off balance. Then, at the last instant, when you’re about to fall on your face, you bring the other foot up to meet it, until you areContinue reading “The Road to Reconciliation: Learn to Walk”
Tag Archives: Marriage
The Road to Reconciliation: Calibrate your Compass
Take a perfectly functional compass and put it in a room with an electromagnet and it will forget which way is north. It’ll point to the magnet because the magnet is exerting a force that it cannot ignore, far more powerful than that exercised by the distant, measly north pole. When a problem enters aContinue reading “The Road to Reconciliation: Calibrate your Compass”
Constructive Conflict Audio-book Raffle
Constructive Conflict is now in audio, narrated by Pete Ferrand. I have 25 free copies to give away and will raffle them off next Monday, August 25, 2016. Fill out the form below if you are interested. If you can’t wait and want your copy right now, click here to go to Amazon.com. It’s alsoContinue reading “Constructive Conflict Audio-book Raffle”
The Road to Reconcilation: Stay on the Road
First, I had you acknowledge your feelings, then set them aside. I had you recognize that you were a victim, then I urged you to stop playing the victim. I told you to not forgive cheaply, then I said you were a fool not to forgive. So, which is it? You ask. What do IContinue reading “The Road to Reconcilation: Stay on the Road”
The Road to Reconciliation: Avoid Playing the Victim
So far, I’ve been urging you to bear right on the road to reconciliation. There’s a good reason for this. To the left are all the hazards that come from not taking your injuries seriously enough: cheap pardon and being out of touch with feelings and uncommitted to values. Now I want you to slightlyContinue reading “The Road to Reconciliation: Avoid Playing the Victim”
The Road to Reconciliation: See the Context
The world may have been created out of nothing, out of a nameless void, they say; but since then, anything that has happened has arisen out of something else. We call this context. If you want to come to some peace over something that has happened to you, then see the context from which itContinue reading “The Road to Reconciliation: See the Context”
The Road to Reconciliation: How to Re-Traumatize Yourself
First, a bad thing happens. Rape, murder, combat, abuse. You don’t have a lot of control over it. That’s the point. Something happens way, way out of your control. You barely make it. Now you’re left with the memories. That’s the trauma. Second, the memories come up. You don’t have a lot of control overContinue reading “The Road to Reconciliation: How to Re-Traumatize Yourself”
The Shrink’s Links: Constructive Conflict
Bringing you the best of mental health every week. My book, Constructive Conflict, has just been published in print and in Kindle. Conflict in relationships is inevitable. If you haven’t had a conflict yet, you haven’t been paying attention. Communication increases conflict. If you haven’t had a conflict yet, you haven’t really been talking. ConflictContinue reading “The Shrink’s Links: Constructive Conflict”
The Road to Reconciliation: Don’t be Stupid
The addiction, the madness, the lying, the cheating, and the selfishness have just done too much damage. Your relationship has been crippled and you’re not sure whether it will ever be the same again. You’ve heard enough apologies. You’ve forgiven too much. You can’t forget all the things that have happened. You’ve decided to hardenContinue reading “The Road to Reconciliation: Don’t be Stupid”
The Shrink’s Links: 75 Ways To Add Variety
Bringing you the best of mental health every week. Many couples say that, after a few years, it’s easy to get in a rut with your partner, sex-wise. You think you know each other, backwards and forwards, and have tried everything. Chances are, you’re wrong. There’s something you haven’t thought of. Or, maybe you haveContinue reading “The Shrink’s Links: 75 Ways To Add Variety”
Keith Wilson - Counseling 