Love – Page 5 – Keith Wilson

What Kind of Justice Do You Want?

You caught your husband on ashleymadison.com, making arrangements to meet another woman. You’re outraged. You want him to make it right. But, what is right? Click here to continue reading

To Confess or Not to Confess, That is the Question

No question about it, confess to yourself. If you can’t be honest with yourself, who can you be honest with? If you believe in God, then confess to God. He knows anyway. If you have a neutral third party you can trust, then confess to her. Confession is cleansing. It’s a double check for bullshit.Continue reading “To Confess or Not to Confess, That is the Question”

Protected: What to Complain About

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Making your Apology Stick

All too many people apologize and promise to change, but fail to follow it up. Not only do they fail to fulfill their promises, but they even fail to notice whether they’ve fulfilled them or not.

Beware of the Fundamental Attribution Error

The old lady ahead of you falls. You think she’s too weak to get around without a walker until you trip over the same bad spot in the sidewalk. You watch Jeopardy and try to come up with the questions for Alex Trebek’s answers. Alex Trebek seems to be smarter than you.

Regaining Trust

Two people go to the bank. One has a good credit score, the other a bad one. One is clearly more creditworthy, or trustworthy, than the other, based on past behavior. One paid his loans on time, the other sometimes defaulted. These two see the same banker and ask her for a loan. You mayContinue reading “Regaining Trust”

What’s the Difference Between Responsibility and Blame?

Not everything is your fault. In fact, most things are not your fault; you had nothing to do with them. You didn’t ask to be born to these people or at this time or this place, at least so far as we know. You didn’t invent the language you speak. You didn’t have a choiceContinue reading “What’s the Difference Between Responsibility and Blame?”

Your Feelings are Your Feelings

What does it mean to cross the watershed and identify yourself as both offender and victim? It means that you go through the same process of guilt, acknowledgement of shortcomings, restitution, and reconciliation as the person who hurt you.

When You Arrive at a Watershed Moment, Cross It

We’re at a watershed moment on the Road to Reconciliation. It’s a crucial juncture where you go from thinking you’re just a victim to knowing that you’re a perpetrator, at least a partial perpetrator. You can admit you’ve victimized others, including the one who hurt you. It’s the moment you get real. It’s when youContinue reading “When You Arrive at a Watershed Moment, Cross It”

Has the Hurt Ended?

The wind stopped blowing and the sky looks nice, but, if this is a hurricane, you may be passing through the eye of the storm. The earthquake has struck, but watch for aftershocks. You’ve had a minor stroke, but is a major one coming along? If your loved one did something to hurt you andContinue reading “Has the Hurt Ended?”