Bringing you the best of mental health every week. Hedy Yumi, an Israeli therapist, living in Washington DC, specializes in working with couples who are ready to make amends after an affair. If you’re ready, you could schedule an eighteen hour session with her, over two days, and get it done. The thing is, you’veContinue reading “Hedy Yumi”
Category Archives: Reconciliation
Protected: What to Complain About
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Bringing you the best of mental health. Is an apology that’s not said out loud really an apology? What if the person expressing the apology doesn’t draw attention to it?
Making your Apology Stick
All too many people apologize and promise to change, but fail to follow it up. Not only do they fail to fulfill their promises, but they even fail to notice whether they’ve fulfilled them or not.
10 Ways to Screw Up an Apology
If you’ve decided you can’t apologize to the person you hurt because it would hurt him more, then go with God. If you’ve decided you can’t apologize to the person you hurt because it would hurt you more, then see you in Hell. But, if you’ve decided you will apologize to the person you hurtContinue reading “10 Ways to Screw Up an Apology”
Confession to a Neutral Party
Once you have written your statement of responsibility for wronging someone, it’s time to put the show on the road. The essence of taking responsibility is to declare it to someone. It makes no sense to take responsibility in such a way that nobody hears it. When this particular tree falls in the forest, ifContinue reading “Confession to a Neutral Party”
How Do You Make Amends When You Can’t Make Amends?
Making direct amends can be difficult, but necessary, when the harmed party is looking for it, and rewarding when you do it well. The payoff is reconciliation. But not everyone you have harmed is all set to forgive you. Some are gone, many don’t know they were harmed, and a lot don’t want anything toContinue reading “How Do You Make Amends When You Can’t Make Amends?”
Making Amends is Better than Making Apologies
No one is interested in your apologies, unless you back them up with a change in behavior. Making amends repairs the damage; making apologies is only a promise to repair the damage. One is action; the other, words. One will cost you something; it might even bring about a transformation. The other is as cheapContinue reading “Making Amends is Better than Making Apologies”
Don’t ever let anyone talk you out of feeling guilty
Don’t ever let anyone talk you out of feeling guilty about something you’ve done. Even if what you did was not wrong, even if it was justified and every court in the land would agree; if you feel guilty, then OK, go ahead and accept it. Guilt is a guide. You can’t travel in aContinue reading “Don’t ever let anyone talk you out of feeling guilty”
The Effects of your Actions
Once you have written your statement of responsibility, you’re ready for the next step: imagining the effects of your actions.
Keith Wilson - Counseling 