While You’ve Been Collecting Tokens at Your Meeting, Your Addiction Has Been Doing Pushups in the Dark

While You’ve Been Collecting Tokens at Your Meeting, Your Addiction Has Been Pumping Iron in the Parking Lot So, you’ve stopped drinking or drugging. The addiction seems to have gone away. Has it, really? Addiction takes cover sometimes when it feels threatened. It’ll hide in the bushes and come roaring out when you least suspect it.Continue reading “While You’ve Been Collecting Tokens at Your Meeting, Your Addiction Has Been Doing Pushups in the Dark”

You’re Being Sold

Some Things You May Not Know About Addiction You’re Being Sold I know. When you use drugs you think you’re a bohemian, wildly independent, marching to a different drummer, rejecting the herd mentality, experimenting with alternate consciousness. Well, take it from an aging hippie; before you turn on, tune in, and drop out in thatContinue reading “You’re Being Sold”

Build a Fence Around Your Addiction

Build a Fence Around Your Addiction You’re addicted. You’ve tried to stop, but for some reason, something keeps pulling you back to your addiction. What can you do, instead? There are a lot of things you could do to prevent relapse. One of them is to build a fence. Yes, a fence. In fact, betterContinue reading “Build a Fence Around Your Addiction”

You’ve Been Groomed 

You’ve Been Groomed  Both the Addict and the Ones They Harm Are Groomed By Addiction It’s bad enough to know you’ve been hurt; but if you want to prevent it from happening again, there’s something even worse to think about. The one who hurt you might have groomed you to be a victim. By groomed, IContinue reading “You’ve Been Groomed “

If You’re Addicted, Staying Clean is Not Enough

Relationships Must Be Restored If all you do is abstain from your drug, you’ve got a good start; but it’s just a start. There’s lots of repair and rebuilding yet to do if you want to earn all the rewards of your recovery and prevent relapse from happening again.

The Addict’s Family Needs as Much Help as the Addict

The Addict’s Family Needs as Much Help as the Addict Even if you’ve never done anything addictive in your life, if you love a person with an addiction, addiction is your problem, too. When an addiction takes over a person, it takes over a relationship. The people in the relationship disappear and the needs ofContinue reading “The Addict’s Family Needs as Much Help as the Addict”

Positive Reinforcement is Not Enough to Motivate a Person to Recover from Addiction

But Neither is Pain You’re a good parent, a loving spouse, a decent boss, a fair judge, or a caring therapist. You took psychology in college. You learned that positive reinforcement is more effective than negative reinforcement. Therefore, you reason, all you need to do is reward your loved one when he does well. GiveContinue reading “Positive Reinforcement is Not Enough to Motivate a Person to Recover from Addiction”

Those Who Care the Most About You Will Be the Last to Believe in Your Recovery

If you’re an addict in recovery, you may have already noticed this. Those who are closest to you are the last to believe you’re changing. Your wife, your husband, mother, father, children, close friends, don’t get as excited as you do when you celebrate one week clean, one month clean, or one year clean. They’veContinue reading “Those Who Care the Most About You Will Be the Last to Believe in Your Recovery”

Recovery is Easier Than You Think

You may think that it’s hard to recover from addiction. Of course it is. But nearly everyone who has experienced both addiction and recovery say the same thing. Addiction is harder. You’re accustomed to all the work it takes to keep up an addiction, so you might not notice it anymore. You may not beContinue reading “Recovery is Easier Than You Think”