Keith R Wilson

What’s the Difference Between Responsibility and Blame?

Not everything is your fault. In fact, most things are not your fault; you had nothing to do with them. You didn’t ask to be born to these people or at this time or this place, at least so far as we know. You didn’t invent the language you speak. You didn’t have a choiceContinue reading “What’s the Difference Between Responsibility and Blame?”

You Don’t Have to Feel Bad to be a Good Person

Bringing you the best of mental health every week. Almost everything I know about shame and guilt, I have learned from making mistakes. Lots and lots of mistakes. Everything else, I learned from my clients. But the way I’ve made any sense of it all has been from the work of June Tangney, professor ofContinue reading “You Don’t Have to Feel Bad to be a Good Person”

How to Influence the Clueless

Bringing you the best of mental health every week. I got Clueless 101: A Life Manual for for Millennials to review and was thinking of re-gifting it to a millennial as a graduation present. It’s replete with visual aides and jam packed with helpful practical advice on everything from leasing an apartment to charting aContinue reading “How to Influence the Clueless”

Your Feelings are Your Feelings

What does it mean to cross the watershed and identify yourself as both offender and victim? It means that you go through the same process of guilt, acknowledgement of shortcomings, restitution, and reconciliation as the person who hurt you.

When You Arrive at a Watershed Moment, Cross It

We’re at a watershed moment on the Road to Reconciliation. It’s a crucial juncture where you go from thinking you’re just a victim to knowing that you’re a perpetrator, at least a partial perpetrator. You can admit you’ve victimized others, including the one who hurt you. It’s the moment you get real. It’s when youContinue reading “When You Arrive at a Watershed Moment, Cross It”

Unclean

Bringing you the best of mental health every week. It may be too much for me to hope that you enjoyed my recent post in The Road to Reconciliation on disgust. It’s possible to write about boredom without being boring, it’s easy to write about anger without being angry, but it may be impossible toContinue reading “Unclean”

Gender and Jewelry

Bringing you the best of mental health every week. If you ever wondered why you wear the jewelry you wear, you may enjoy Gender and Jewelry: A Feminist Analysis by Rebecca Ross Russell. For an academic paper, conceived, it appears, while working on a combined Bachelor’s of Fine Arts and Women’s Studies, it is eminentlyContinue reading “Gender and Jewelry”

Kindness

Bringing you the best of mental health every week. This week’s link of the week is the poem, Kindness, by Naomi Shihab Nye.

Announcement: Excellus Blue Cross/Blue Shield

I’m pleased to announce that I now am an in-network provider for Excellus Blue Cross/Blue Shield. In other words, I “take” their insurance. Most of the time. It’s complicated. If you need to know just how complicated it is, click here to read the article I wrote on what it means to “take” an insurance.

Upheavals of Thought

Bringing you the best of mental health every week. The emotions could use some better PR. They have been blamed for everything from each personal crisis to the insanity that is called this year’s election. We shrinks have mobilized the troops of rationality and have sharpened the swords of Stoicism, recast as Cognitive BehavioralContinue reading “Upheavals of Thought”