If you think that going to therapy means you can go to a shrink’s office, unload all your problems, and walk away a new man, you’ll be disappointed. You might feel better for a minute, but if you go home and do the same things you’ve always done, you’ll get what you’ve always got. TherapyContinue reading “See, Do, Teach”
Category Archives: The Reflective Eclectic: A Guide to Therapy
Stop the Madness
I have many role models, but two of them are of the negative type: people who have made mistakes I want to avoid. The first is James Nasmith, the inventor of the game of basketball; the second is Thomas Jefferson. The reason I don’t want to be like Nasmith is not because he invented basketball.Continue reading “Stop the Madness”
Freud, Explained
Of all the figures in shrinkdom, Freud is the most revered and reviled, the most quoted and misquoted, and the most influential and ignored. It used to be that every shrink wanted to be like him, now we want to challenge him and be as different as we can. Perhaps this is what he getsContinue reading “Freud, Explained”
Helping Brains Talk to One Another
Here’s something that’ll surprise you. Other people know you better than you know yourself. It surprised you, didn’t it? That just goes to show that people can predict how you’ll feel. Upon that counterintuitive claim rests David Schnarch’s new book, Brain Talk: How Mind Mapping Brain Science Can Change Your Life & Everyone in It.Continue reading “Helping Brains Talk to One Another”
The Table
Continuing my series on objects in my office, today I’d like to write about the table I keep my computer on. This table probably never thought it would bear a computer in a therapist’s office and be used to write such high-falutin stuff as this. It began its life as the kitchen table of myContinue reading “The Table”
How I Found My Calling and How Moses Found His
On this Passover, I’ll undertake something I wouldn’t recommend to anyone: comparing myself to Moses. We have a few things in common. We both found our calling. If you’ve been looking for yours, you might benefit from hearing how we found ours. Continue reading →
A Review of Intercourse
A few weeks ago, at the high point of the Kavanaugh confirmation hearings, when it seemed like the whole world was fighting the war of the sexes, I decided to read a book that had been on my shelf a long time. Was this book some kind of feel-good escapist fare? Not a chance. IContinue reading “A Review of Intercourse”
What if We’re Wrong?
What if a person really could forget the horrors of the past? Yes, I know; we therapists tell you it’s impossible to do without paying a price. We say that you have a lumber room of the mind, a hidden closet in which you stuff all the traumas and memories you wish you had noContinue reading “What if We’re Wrong?”
What’s the Best Form of Therapy?
The easiest method of doing something is not always the most effective; but it is the easiest, so that’s saying something for it. Easy is more effective than the most effective if the most effective is impossible for you to do. When it comes to treatment for mental illness, if I were to rank theContinue reading “What’s the Best Form of Therapy?”
Solution Focused Brief Therapy
Some people think psychotherapy is like getting their teeth cleaned. For others, it’s like getting their teeth pulled. There are some who value a comfortable, long term relationship with a therapist: someone who doesn’t judge, someone who lets them be who they are and go at their own pace. They go periodically to get thingsContinue reading “Solution Focused Brief Therapy”
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