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Boundaries and Trust
Think of your Self as a house. There are some people in your life who you never have to trust. They’re like people who never come in to your house. You pass them on the street and go by. You see them all the time, but they don’t know you. Others, you trust in someContinue reading “Boundaries and Trust”
The Perils of Understanding
And how your prejudices can help you understand better I once worked as a therapist with a deaf female client in my office by having her type what she wanted to say to me, as I typed to her. I didn’t know much sign language but was eager to show off what little I had.Continue reading “The Perils of Understanding”
Shame
We have no emotion that’s not useful in some way. Everything is there for a purpose, even an emotion that undermines its purpose. I’m talking about shame. Its purpose seems to be to help us fit in with others. Shame, and its milder version, embarrassment, comes up when you violate a social norm which mightContinue reading “Shame”
Some Strange Ideas about the Strange Situation
And stranger ideas about attachment A mother enters a room with her eighteen-month-old child. Neither have been there before. There’s a few toys on the floor. The mother leaves the child with a stranger for a few minutes. The mother returns. White-coated researchers are standing behind a one-way mirror with clipboards, recording everything that happens.Continue reading “Some Strange Ideas about the Strange Situation”
What Is the Meaning of Life?
I have an answer It’s taken humankind thousands of years, but I think I finally have the answer. I know the meaning of life. For many people, questions about the meaning of life get set aside; but, for us therapists, we encounter them every day. Questioning the meaning of life is part of the humanContinue reading “What Is the Meaning of Life?”
Why is it Hard to Talk About Feelings?
You don’t have to be hyper-rational or repressed to have a hard time talking about feelings, you could be emotionally intelligent and still have difficulty. Feelings are hard to talk about. There are simple reasons and deeper, more complex reasons. The simple ones first. Continue reading →
Empathy
And what it’s like to be a bat You could make a meal of a moth, hang upside down and sleep, flap your arms and try to fly, and close your eyes and navigate by sound; but you will never, never really know what it’s like to be a bat. Continue reading →
Metaphorical Feelings
As if understanding feelings wasn’t hard enough, we also have to understand feelings that aren’t really feelings: metaphorical feelings. Continue reading →
Frustration
The feeling that detects the impossible. A lot of feelings will draw your attention elsewhere where your attention doesn’t do you any good. The feeling of frustration is this way. When you’re feeling frustrated, your attention is on the object of your frustration when it should be on yourself. Continue reading →
Keith R Wilson 