Victims in Denial

One type you’ll see on the side of the road to reconciliation are the Deniers. You’ll see them, but they won’t see you. They’re blind, deaf, and insensible to touch. They only know what they want to know, what’s convenient to them, what fits in the worldview they feel they must have. If the evidenceContinue reading “Victims in Denial”

Noel Bell Podcast

In this video, I appear as a guest on Noel Bell’s podcast/videocast, talking about reconciliation. Noel is a London therapist who is very interested in personal growth, recovery from addictions, and inner transformations. Anyone can learn a lot from listening to his podcasts, but I suspect other therapists would like him best because he’s notContinue reading “Noel Bell Podcast”

Helping Therapy Clients in Difficult Relationships Find Peace

I’ll be teaching a 2 hour webinar for therapists at 9 am, Eastern Time next Friday, 1/17/2020, on goodtherapy.org. Two continuing ed hours will be provided by GoodTherapy for attending this web conference in its entirety. If you cannot participate live, you’ll be able to view it from the Goodtherapy archives. Every client who comesContinue reading “Helping Therapy Clients in Difficult Relationships Find Peace”

Natural Variations

Take any two people and there will always be a natural variation between them regarding any characteristic. There will always be one who is more strict with the kids, open to in-laws, careful with money, adventurous in bed, ambitious about career, social, self-confident, flirty, interested in a clean house, closer to family, better at math,Continue reading “Natural Variations”

A Reconciliation Case Study

Travis and Suzanne entered my office, sat down at opposite sides of the room, and immediately began to speak at once, competing for airtime. Travis was addicted to cocaine, Suzanne his long-suffering wife. The last time Travis used cocaine had been eight months ago; but at that point he had been repeatedly leading the familyContinue reading “A Reconciliation Case Study”

How to Make an Apology You’ll Never Have to Make Again

If you’re in the doghouse and would like to get out, today is your lucky day. I just published a new book that can show you how: How to Make an Apology You’ll Never Have to Make Again. This is the third in a series, all designed to help you have more satisfying, and lessContinue reading “How to Make an Apology You’ll Never Have to Make Again”

Have You Been Groomed?

It’s bad enough to contemplate that someone who should have loved you, hurt you instead; but if you want to prevent it from happening again, there’s something even worse to think about. He might have groomed you to be a victim. By groomed, I mean the process that an offender uses to prepare you toContinue reading “Have You Been Groomed?”