Relationships, Part 16: Desire and Power

Whomever has more desire has less power. This is the case no matter what you desire. If you go to a used car lot and find a car you desire, the moment you communicate that desire to the salesman, the price goes up. Whoever holds the object of desire gets to set the terms. WeContinue reading “Relationships, Part 16: Desire and Power”

A New Development: The After Visit Summary

The latest good idea I’ve had about counseling I got from visiting my allergist. I have allergies. If you ever sat with me in a counseling session and I had tears in my eyes, it might have been due to what you were saying; sometimes I am deeply moved. But probably my allergies were responsible.Continue reading “A New Development: The After Visit Summary”

Relationships, Part 15: When you Need Your Space, the Hat Method

Some days, you just need your space. The trouble is, your partner is there, too, and if you try to get some space, they may take it personally. You don’t want to get into a long discussion over why you need your space when you need your space. It may not be good to getContinue reading “Relationships, Part 15: When you Need Your Space, the Hat Method”

The Shrink’s Links: The Gervais Principle

Bringing you the best of mental health and relationship articles on the internet. Today’s link from the shrink is: The Gervais Principle, Or The Office According to “The Office” This post, and a few that follow, offers the deepest and richest explanation of organizational behavior that I’ve seen. Click here to go to the link

Relationships, Part 14: How Do You Respond to Bids for Attention?

1. Negative response “You want to go out to dinner tonight?” “I wouldn’t go out with you if you were the last man on earth.” It might discourage him from ever asking again. 2. Accusatory response “You want to go out to dinner tonight?” “You can’t make it up to me that easy.” Maybe not,Continue reading “Relationships, Part 14: How Do You Respond to Bids for Attention?”

The Shrink’s Links: Hyperbole and a Half

Bringing you the best of mental health and relationship articles on the internet. Today’s link from the shrink is: Hyperbole and a Half This has got to be the most hilarious blog ever made by a depressive. Here, she improves on the pain rating scale you see in doctor’s offices. Click here to go toContinue reading “The Shrink’s Links: Hyperbole and a Half”

Relationships, Part 13: The Dance of Relationship: A Guide to the Positions

When we think about love, we may picture something like this: This position is called Turning Towards. You’re facing each other and paying attention to no one but each other. You may be touching. You might believe this is the most desirable of the positions, but it’s very intense. It’s hard to do anything elseContinue reading “Relationships, Part 13: The Dance of Relationship: A Guide to the Positions”

The Shrink’s Links: Still I Rise

Bringing you the best of mental health and relationship articles on the internet. Today’s link from the shrink is: Still I Rise Feeling oppressed? Recite this poem to yourself and you’ll feel ready to take it on, anyway. Good for all types of oppression. Click here to go to the link Related articles The Shrink’sContinue reading “The Shrink’s Links: Still I Rise”

Relationships, Part 12: Heads on Pillows

Here’s another exercise that can improve your relationship. It’s called Heads on Pillows. Set a timer for five minutes. Lie down with your partner, clothes on, side by side, facing each other. Put your heads on pillows. If your partner has one eye, you’re too close. Don’t speak, stroke, or grope. Try not to makeContinue reading “Relationships, Part 12: Heads on Pillows”