Feelings are complicated, especially in how they pertain to intimate relationships. Summarizing how you feel is sometimes like taking a bucket out of the Atlantic Ocean and saying, here, this is what the ocean is like.
A bucket of water is not what the ocean is like. Even if you get a jellyfish, you might miss scooping up a shark.
Good thing there’s a simple test that cuts through a lot of the ruminations and bullshit.
I call it the key test. It works like this:
Imagine you are home alone and you hear a key opening the door. It’s your partner.
What’s your first reaction? Is it positive or negative?
That’s the key test.
I told you it was simple.