Sometimes it’s hard to know how you feel about your partner.
Feelings are complicated, especially in how they pertain to intimate relationships. Summarizing how you feel is sometimes like taking a bucket out of the Atlantic Ocean and saying, here, this is what the ocean is like.
A bucket of water is not what the ocean is like. Even if you get a jellyfish, you might miss scooping up a shark.
Good thing there’s a simple test that cuts through a lot of the ruminations and bullshit.
I call it the key test. It works like this:
Imagine you are home alone and you hear a key opening the door. It’s your partner.
What’s your first reaction? Is it positive or negative?
That’s the key test.
I told you it was simple.
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Published by Keith R Wilson
I'm a licensed mental health counselor and certified alcohol and substance abuse counselor in private practice with more than 30 years experience.
My newest book is The Road to Reconciliation: A Comprehensive Guide to Peace When Relationships Go Bad. I recently published a workbook connected to it titled, How to Make an Apology You’ll Never Have to Make Again.
I also have another self help book, Constructive Conflict: Building Something Good Out of All Those Arguments.
I’ve also published two novels, a satire of the mental health field: Fate’s Janitors: Mopping Up Madness at a Mental Health Clinic, and Intersections , which takes readers on a road trip with a suicidal therapist.
If you prefer your reading in easily digestible bits, with or without with pictures, I have created a Twitter account @theshrinkslinks.
MyFacebook page is called Keith R Wilson – Author.
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