Relationships, Part 24: The Key Test

key in doorSometimes it’s hard to know how you feel about your partner.

Feelings are complicated, especially in how they pertain to intimate relationships. Summarizing how you feel is sometimes like taking a bucket out of the Atlantic Ocean and saying, here, this is what the ocean is like.

A bucket of water is not what the ocean is like. Even if you get a jellyfish, you might miss scooping up a shark.

Good thing there’s a simple test that cuts through a lot of the ruminations and bullshit.

I call it the key test. It works like this:

Imagine you are home alone and you hear a key opening the door. It’s your partner.

What’s your first reaction? Is it positive or negative?

That’s the key test.

I told you it was simple.

Click here to go to the entire Relationships series.

Published by Keith R Wilson

I'm a licensed mental health counselor and certified alcohol and substance abuse counselor in private practice with more than 30 years experience. My newest book is The Road to Reconciliation: A Comprehensive Guide to Peace When Relationships Go Bad. I recently published a workbook connected to it titled, How to Make an Apology You’ll Never Have to Make Again. I also have another self help book, Constructive Conflict: Building Something Good Out of All Those Arguments. I’ve also published two novels, a satire of the mental health field: Fate’s Janitors: Mopping Up Madness at a Mental Health Clinic, and Intersections , which takes readers on a road trip with a suicidal therapist. If you prefer your reading in easily digestible bits, with or without with pictures, I have created a Twitter account @theshrinkslinks. MyFacebook page is called Keith R Wilson – Author.

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