What if relationships were like Calvinball?

If the traditional forms of relationship are not working for you, and you need a role model; you don’t need to go far to find one. You only need to read some old funny pages. There you will find a perfect trusting relationship illustrated in Calvin and Hobbes. Calvin and Hobbes is a wonderful comicContinue reading “What if relationships were like Calvinball?”

A New Lease on your Relationship: Money

No relationship can go on for long before the couple has to work out what to do about money. Even at the dating stage there’s that awkward moment when you first fight over the check at the restaurant. Couples didn’t use to fight over the check, the man always paid; but now the woman isContinue reading “A New Lease on your Relationship: Money”

A New Lease on your Relationship: Space

Here’s a surprising bit of science: studies show that married couples who live apart have the same levels of satisfaction as those who live together. Here’s another: it’s a growing trend; especially, it seems, in Britain, where ten percent of married couples have separate addresses. It’s somewhere between six and nine percent in the US.Continue reading “A New Lease on your Relationship: Space”

A New Lease on your Relationship: Duration

While you’re taking an honest look at your relationship, take an honest look at this. How long are you planning for it to last? When most people let a partner into their life they assume it’s for life. One of the best things about love relationships can be their longevity. You’re sick of the wholeContinue reading “A New Lease on your Relationship: Duration”

A New Lease on your Relationship: Goals

When a landlord and a tenant sign a lease, they both know what they’re getting out of it. The tenant gets an apartment and the landlord gets rent. Both are getting something they want, something they didn’t have before they signed the lease. There’s a reason for their relationship. What is the reason for yourContinue reading “A New Lease on your Relationship: Goals”

Relationships, part 69: A New Lease on your Relationship

If you leased out a portion of your life, what would the terms and conditions be? You own an apartment building with an almost infinite number of apartments, but, once someone moves in, you can never evict them, and they can never leave. You can move them from one apartment to the other. There’s onlyContinue reading “Relationships, part 69: A New Lease on your Relationship”

Relationships, part 68: The Problem with Talking About Love

When you were a baby and became uncomfortable, you didn’t know what you wanted. You could scream, but you had no words to describe what was going on with you or what would change it. Your parents didn’t either. They would try one thing and then another; give you food, change your diaper, burp you,Continue reading “Relationships, part 68: The Problem with Talking About Love”

Relationships, part 67: How Do I Love Thee, Let me Count the Ways

What do you mean when you say I love you? The word love can be used to cover a multitude of sentiments. There is tremendous variety among those who march under the banner of love, from the most selfless angels to the most hate-filled devils. When you say love do you mean? · I wantContinue reading “Relationships, part 67: How Do I Love Thee, Let me Count the Ways”

Part 66: Relationships are Eternal

Once you are in a relationship with someone, you will always be in a relationship with that person. It’s like the Hotel California, you can never leave. I don’t care if you never speak to her again, if you move to the other side of the world, put up a dartboard with her face onContinue reading “Part 66: Relationships are Eternal”

The Shrink’s Links: Should I Stay or Should I Go?

  Bringing you the best of mental health every week. I picked up Should I Stay or Should I Go? hoping that I might find an algorithm for divorce or reconciliation, some kind of formula in which one could plug in factors and come away with an inarguable conclusion about how much effort couples shouldContinue reading “The Shrink’s Links: Should I Stay or Should I Go?”