Are you a Partner or a Hostage?

Let’s sort this out:
Partners have choices.
Hostages have to do what they’re told.
Partners can leave and speak.
Hostages are bound and gagged.
Partners share power.
Hostages have no power.
Partners compromise.
Hostages adjust.
Partners are trusted.
Hostages are checked up on.
Partners are loved.
Hostages are blackmailed.
Partners’ boundaries are observed.
Hostages’ boundaries are violated.
People take partners.
Addiction takes hostages.

So, which is it? Are you a partner or a hostage?
Which do you have? A partner or a hostage?