Constructive Conflict

Book cover Constructive Conflict: Building Something Good Out of All Those Arguments

As a therapist working with individual clients, families and couples, I know relationship conflict is one of the most common stressors people bring into therapy. Couples often ask for tools and strategies to improve communication, which is why I was so happy to come across this book. Keith Wilson has worked with couples for many years, and outlines the wisdom he has gained from this work in his book. This practical, down-to-earth book outlines 14 clear strategies to practice and improve the effectiveness of conflict communication. The book focuses on helping couples improve communication and learn from one another. I found the concepts presented apply to most relationships and a helpful resource.
-Amy Rosechandler, LMHC

This is a really good book that explains what goes on in a conflict from both viewpoints and what you can do to improve your fight style so you both benefit. I would recommend a book like this for any couple to read before they are married. It would be helpful in many relationships. The author uses humor and language representative of some fight styles, which means it is an adults only book.

I got it with a work relationship in mind, but since this calls for two cooperative people, I’ll just keep doing my half and hoping she retires soon. (I received this in a goodreads giveaway.)

-Kathleen

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